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title: "Nobody Told Me It Would Feel Like This"
url: https://stacklist.com/card/fcc9a350-a059-4a91-9590-5000aad8e002
source_url: "https://www.linkedin.com/posts/carlyvivian_nobody-told-me-it-would-feel-like-this-activity-7477729938167750656-cQRi"
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summary: "Carly Vivian's LinkedIn post explores the emotional cost of transitioning from a specialized corporate role to running your own business, framing it as a grief over lost depth rather than a learning challenge. The post resonates with commenters who share similar experiences of missing their core skill while juggling the many demands of entrepreneurship."
tags: "second-act, entrepreneurship, career-transition, identity-loss, sales, focus, leadership"
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# Nobody Told Me It Would Feel Like This

Carly Vivian 3w Report this post "Nobody told me it would feel like this." She didn't mean the workload. She meant the loss. She ran Sales. She drove the number. For years, that was the whole job, and she was very good at it. She knew what to do every morning when she sat down. Now she's in her Second Act, running her own thing, and the focus is gone. But not because she lost it. Because she can't afford it anymore. She has to think about operations. Production. Cash. The website. The thing that breaks at 4 PM and nobody else is there to fix it. Sales is still in there somewhere, the part she really loves, but it's now one of fifteen things competing for the same hour. And what I notice, with her and the women I work with, is how much it costs them. I'm not talking about the hours. It's the loss of the one place she felt most like herself. The skill that defined and drove her First Act is still her best skill, and she barely gets to use it. People assume the hard part of a Second Act is learning the new things. Often, the harder part is grieving the old depth, the thing you could do in your sleep. You go from being the best in the room at one thing, your specialty, to being only adequate at ten different things. That trade is real, and nobody warns you about it going in. The work isn't getting the focus back. It's deciding which version of it you protect, on purpose, and letting the rest be good enough. 16 10 Comments Like Comment Share Copy LinkedIn Facebook X Alan C. Moore 3w Report this comment When I left agency life to build my own business, I missed being deep in campaign strategy. Now, I carve out two hours weekly just to play in that space again. Like Reply 1 Reaction 2 Reactions Will Linssen 3w Report this comment I've seen leaders wrestle with this shift—sometimes they light up just running a tough sales call for an hour, almost like they're borrowing energy from an old friend. Like Reply 1 Reaction 2 Reactions Chuck Vivian 3w Report this comment OMG! Are you kidding me?! This is me! 😂 The other stuff is fun but time consuming - package design, shipping costs, production runs, cold-chain commitments, wholesale pricing, wholesale customers, customer acquistion costs, corporate gifting strategy, just strategy, cash flow, no flow, yo flow, mo flow, chocolate sourcing, West African cacao crop crash, caramel inclusion, shelf life, Amazon, Shopify, and, by the way, I am most comfortable in my skin as a seller. Did that forever. OMG. Thanks for sharing this. Like Reply 1 Reaction 2 Reactions See more comments To view or add a comment, sign in