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title: "Teen Mental Health: What Your Kid Wishes You Understood"
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# Teen Mental Health: What Your Kid Wishes You Understood

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Talking about mental health isn't easy, and it can feel even harder between parents and teens. It's normal for teens to lean on other outlets to work through their feelings, like a trusted friend or a safe online community, but they still need their parents through it all. The challenge is that teens often struggle to explain what they're going through, and parents sometimes struggle to hear it.

No two teens experience things the same way, but for World Mental Health Day, we're sharing five things teens wish their parents understood about their mental health, plus a few ideas for making those conversations a little easier.

## 1\. "I'm not doing this to push your buttons"

Most of us know the classic teen behaviors that test a parent's patience: the eye rolls, the arguing, sleeping until noon, slipping grades. Sometimes that's simply part of being a teenager. Other times, it's a sign that something bigger is happening underneath.

When your teen withdraws or snaps at you, it's easy to take it personally or go straight to consequences. Before you do, try approaching the behavior with curiosity. Is it new? Has it gone on for more than a couple of weeks? Is it happening in more than one area, like at school and with friends as well? Lasting changes in sleep, appetite, grades, or friend groups deserve a closer look, and they're a good reason to check in rather than clamp down.

## 2\. "I don't always need a solution, just someone to listen"

When our teens finally open up about something they're struggling with, our first instinct as parents is to jump in with advice, fix the problem, and tell them what to do next. Even when it comes from love, that response can leave teens feeling unheard, and that makes them less likely to open up the next time.

Next time your teen shares something, try reflecting back what you're hearing before suggesting any solutions. A simple "That sounds really frustrating" can mean a lot. If you aren't sure what they need from you, just ask: "Do you want help with this, or do you just need to vent?" Most teens will be honest about it, and they'll appreciate that you asked.

## 3\. "Sometimes I can't figure out what's wrong, either"

Sound familiar? "Are you okay?" "Yeah, I'm fine." Plenty of parents can sense when "fine" isn't really fine, but more questions don't always get you anywhere. That isn't always because teens don't want to talk. Sometimes they don't understand what's happening themselves, or they don't have the words for what they're feeling.

Rather than pressing for an answer, offer them some language to work with. Asking whether they're feeling more stressed, sad, tired, or overwhelmed can help them name something that feels hard to pin down. And if they still aren't sure, that's fine. Reminding them you're there whenever they're ready often helps more than getting the whole story right away.

## 4\. "When you take my phone, I feel even more alone"

Parents tend to see the phone as the problem, while teens see it as a way out of their problems. For a lot of teens, keeping in touch with friends through texts or social media is how they cope with what's going on. Phones can definitely feed unhealthy habits, but taking them away entirely can leave teens feeling cut off right when they need support the most.

That doesn't mean there are no rules. It just means the conversation may need to focus on balance instead of all-or-nothing. Rather than confiscating the phone as a punishment, you could set phone-free times, like during dinner and at bedtime, while still letting them text friends during the day. Working out these boundaries together, instead of simply announcing them, also helps your teen feel like you're on their side.

## 5\. "I do want to talk, just not always face to face"

Ever notice that some of your best conversations with your teen happen in the car or on a walk? That's probably because you're not talking face-to-face. You're talking side-by-side. Direct eye contact can make teens feel put on the spot, but they often find it easier to open up when they don't have to look straight at you.

Make the most of those moments when they happen naturally, like driving to practice, making dinner together, or taking the dog out. And don't overlook texting. Some teens find it far easier to type out something difficult than to say it aloud, so a quick "Hey, you seemed off today. Want to talk?" can open a door that a sit-down talk might keep closed.

**Pro tip:** Need some help getting the conversation started? Bark's Drive-A-Logue cards are full of fun, thoughtful what-if questions to spark conversation on your next drive.

## How to Approach the Conversation

If we could share just two pieces of advice, they'd be these: listen before you talk, and ask questions before you offer advice. Those small steps make room for real conversations to happen. Every family, every situation, and every mental health challenge is different, and every child will need something a little different. What every teen needs, though, is to know their parent cares and is a safe place to turn. Once that trust is in place, you can begin having deeper conversations about how to help.

It's also important to recognize when it's time to get more support. If your teen's struggles go on for more than a couple of weeks, begin to affect their daily life, or they talk about feeling hopeless or wanting to hurt themselves, contact their pediatrician or a mental health professional. If you're ever concerned about their immediate safety, you can call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.

## Supporting Your Child With Bark

A healthy, balanced digital life can have a big impact on a teen's mental health. That's why Bark offers screen time and web filtering controls that let parents decide when and how long their teen spends online. Bark also watches for signs that your child may be dealing with issues like anxiety, depression, body image concerns, and more. If anything concerning comes up, you'll receive an alert so you can be there for your child when they need you most.

From the Bark App to the Bark Phone, Bark Watch, and Bark Home, our lineup of parental control tools is built to support families through every stage. Explore our products to find the right fit for your family.